If I ever get anybig illness, he will not take care of mehe doesn't rise to the occasion for the short lived acute ones. It took me 27 years to stop being jealous when he treated other women better than me and hyperfocused on gadgets and not me. A true and internal lack of gratitude for his own life that God has granted him, and gratitude for the lives that have been entrusted TO him, which is an honor and which is humbling for the soul who can SEE this fact. I was still in therapy and my therapist, who is a mutual friend and took me on pro-bono, helped me so much to rebuild my esteem, stop being co-dependent. He went and played soccer that night when I was feeling my worst. That's just I was a great person, still am as are you. That's why the 'pursuit' or 'in your face' strategy that you are using fails. It always boils down to me getting sick on purpose! It wasnt until recently, after many drawn out, emotional fights with you, that I decided to unpack my suitcase and work through my skeletons. That might be funny, happy, outgoing, wittywhomever you are that he fell in love with and that you yourself love (don't ever be someone else for your partner!). I hear you, I cant count the number of times my husband made it very clear that myillness was a hughinconvenience for him there was no thought to how it made me feel. Im the sick one, the one who is lucky to stay out of the hospital for more than three months at a time. God forbid that I ever get anything serious. I told him I am sick but he tells me to get rest and took off to entertain himself. Thats Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. I do believe he is plagued internally by his demons and if I can't show compassion and let go of resentment, I would surely hate him for marrying me. ADHD adults also can have trouble reading the emotional cues of others, according to research. But the way to stay unique and independent is to define when you will connect, rather than wait for him to notice at any time. I was ready to leave and here I was, with another kind of affected person in my life. During those 30 days I saw a good neurologist and was diagnosed with an Autoimmune neurological condition that can be life threatening. Although Melissa's suggestions have some merit for a couple where there is active treatment adherence, I don't have much hope of change in my relationship with someone who never gives a thought to anyone else but himself. Then he kept telling me I was going to be alright. I will not call for a man when I am sick. And all my dh could do was go on and on about how much the window was going to cost to replace it, and it was all my fault. She was in her second semester of college and was busy with school and work. I WISH I was kidding. We had an argument this morning where he says I am always in pain, etc. I felt so good in the beginning, the wanted to die from the guilt and then angry when I realized I was even more codependent with this guy. | If they get ill first, and then I get ill? My H, and many others, expect love, support, attention and all the good stuff without being self aware enough to understand that they are not giving it in return and become very angry when it's not provided. We all experience them. Sometimes that takes the form of cuddling or doing something together like a walk/talk. He doesn't seem to catch up or even see it. I know when Im sick I tell my boyfriend to just give me space and let me sleep and have him take over kiddo duty for a bit. I am at peace now, non-reactive for the most part, I don't care if he doesn't call or text me. Germaphobe type thing? Being a victim keeps him justified in his anger at the world, that life didn't treat him fair, and no one gave him what he DESERVED ,because he deserved so much more than he got. That can be very hard to do! His answer was absolutely not. He doesn't want to connect it with his choices of not doing relationships very well, if at all. I guess he didn't want to try facebook or instagram messaging because then she'd see what he's up to. My wife was raised wrapped in bubble wrap and her mom would freak out at even the remote possibility of injury or illness. (We do imitate our parents). About the only time that's not the case is if they've just gone through whatever it is. My A-Hole ex Husband was a jerk to me when I broke my foot the year before we divorced. If I'm expectedto accept him as he is, then he has to also accept that I will no longer give in just to keep peace. I said no. After a month of separation, I was so happy that I started packing to go back. Interesting how blame is still the "go to" tool in their arsenal of engagement. And I'm also feeling better. I am the best thing he has ever had. He hates the snow. I hope he gets the help he needs! Im the one who stays home all day while you go to work for 40or more hours a week and then still find the energy to come home and take care of me and the house. Submitted by copingSAH on Mon, 09/29/2014 - 09:42. Your partner sounds as if he's not good at transitions (i.e. Its me, me and my illness, that dominate our life. Well, then, I say. I do this sometimes. The world should recognize his presence and he should be treated with utmost respect while giving none in returnto ANYONE! Gosh, feel better! Eventually, he got through it and started healing. You dont care about my illness. You should absolutely not expect to be treated as a child by your wife, and don't put your wife in the roll of your mother. I was being somewhat sarcastic in my response. Submitted by Jr4par83 on Mon, 11/23/2020 - 21:27. It is obvious that ADD people rarely change for any measurable amount of time. Nothing sexual ever happened but after 2 years of him love bombing me, calling me hot, beautiful, his soul mate, his twin, etc, he would discard me when I got too needy and hoover me back in when he needed an emotional pick me up. Do you notice periods of lucidity between the bouts of rage? It was miserable. I really appreciate your insight. Pleasure. Remind her of how bad you feel and how much you'd appreciate her help while you recover. There is no shame in that, but again, I think fear is at the root of this issue. WebMaybe he's the kind of person who doesn't want to be bothered when he's sick. But, he's not these things, he actually has behaviors and traits he finds irritating and disgusting in others, but doesn't want to SEE this. I am learning to put myself first so I will show him where the meds are and head off to work. Consequences. (Soup after you just threw up is too soon). 9. She can't fix it if she doesn't know. This is the extent of OUR now/not now difference when it comes to love. Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help! Empathy, love, and Gatorade are amazing to have, but the rest is all you. Hi. That is when a person is the Your husband is a narcissist, sorry to say. I would have been down on my kneesbegging for forgiveness.for making me go swimming with 104 degree temperatureand not believing me or showing the concern when I was told that I was sick and didn't feel well? So i'm just learning but this is an ADHD trait? My In-laws and husband were there, along with our daughter. I learned about myself and learned some hard lessons. registered trademarks of Ziff Davis Canada, Inc. and may not be used by third parties without https://www.adhdmarriage.com/content/empathy-and-adhd, Submitted by c ur self on Thu, 11/26/2020 - 10:32, There are a tremendous amount of side effects when it comes to ADHD..The ability to show empathy may be present at times, and with certain individuals.Spousal empathy can be effected by numerous things.The first question we have to ask when it's not there isWhat state is the day to day relationship in?If the answer is Not great!Then that is one place you have to go with human beings, ADHD or not.But, hyper focus is a major player.Selfishness and self absorbed minds are major players.Distraction as well as addiction will also play a role if present.Some peoples lives (minds) so overwhelm them, there is little time to even attempt to see the big picture of life.(If the capability is even there). So it's easier when you can say, "ok 20% sucks if I let it but 80% is fabulous". In the letter I explained that he needed to get help and I was running to save myself. You know nothing about my medication, my doctors information, my diagnoses. Or begging him to drive you home. She says take medicine or go to doctor. Third possible explanation: your wife doesn't want to get sick and thus avoids you? You love me. he gets very angry. I never get any sympathy from him, but my children hug me, draw me upside down rainbows because I am in pain and can't smile, and try to help me. this was my question. We already talked last night and we good now. Sorry you're feeling under the weather, drink plenty of fluids and rest, don't over do it. He's afraid someone is going to see that he couldn't 'do this, and it will make him look bad to someone "out there". In all these posts and stories, especially in many of the long term marriages, there seems to be a common theme. ExpectingH to become someone he cannot/will not be is futile. I have taken you for granted. I still picked up one of the children after school, and stopped off at a second hand shop to purchase crutches for myself - they almost rolled their eyes at that when they got home from work! He thinks about "whatever", in the moment he's in. He loves, smoking, drinking, games, cars, machines, jokes and flirting. Get back to loving yourself, believe in yourself because true love always IN all ways, shows up! yikes!! ever heard of obsessive compulsive personality disorder? Of course. When someone is sick or injured.I'm first respondentjust so you know? But I text him and found out his wife was bipolar and in and out of hospitals. I know the empathy is in there, but it's overridden by the rest of their experience and the onslaught of perception they constantly have to sort through. I could have written pages and pages in response. The saying goes, "Don't be mad when I pull a you, on you." 3. He is Always the "Victim" and Everything is Always My Fault! He sees the painted parts and not the unpainted parts, because to him this is a lot of work. Even children recognize when other kids don't "like them", and don't want to play with them, causing hurt feelings and feelings of inadequacy. Submitted by kellyj on Wed, 12/14/2016 - 14:18. Commitment, sacrifice, partnering are too boring and difficult..not a part of love to H. Love is only themoment's pleasure to him. Well, this time, I was calm, I got out of the car and changed my mind but he told me to get back in. Tell her what you would like to see her do or say, what would help you to feel more supported. I got a friend to help, the truck, got a place to go, separated the bills (still paid his cell and medical in case he went to therapy), wrote a letter and tired to live with him without acknowledging his last tantrum, my pain and still having sex and accepting his hugs and sucking up to me and trying not to cave or vomit. My husband thinks it's hilarious to ask when I'll be sexually available again but balks when I ask him for some ice to settle my stomach. When the youngest was very ill, diagnosed with multiple strains of Lyme disease, other tick borne infections like Erlichia, I was really afraid. Now when Im sick I prefer to be left alone. When I confront him about what I'm thinking about how he acts, he becomes defensive and gets angry. 2015 was the year that changed me some more. And.as I have confirmed my father ( the Narc ) did this as well? And vice versa. and my child will throw up or have a fever. Theyve been together for 15 THAT, was fear. Sign #12: He Doesnt Pay For Anything. I've had to take a de-greaser and scrub them all down to get the old slimy grease off of all of them. So pick your battles my friends and learn about yourself in the process. I know some have stated this, others have said the opposite. Isn't THAT ironic? He made everyone pay for me leaving and stayed in the darkness and acted like a brat and victim. It was like neither of us care that we were damaging our marriage. I m not saying it s right, but I am not putting in the effort for someone who lies to my face about everything. I hope you left him. All big red flags. You are not important. I get dizziness, irritability, mood swings, left sided weakness, severe nerve pain, and killer headaches with my autoimmune attacks. Of course my Hcalled right back saying he could not hear his phone(yet his friend heard his on the 2nd ring). Like I was some animal in the Zooand he was just coming to see the specimen out of curiosity. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 08:18. This is not ok. But that was a lot of days for him to be unable to make any time for you. Tired of the "sorry" "I suck as a husband but won't get help" "you deserve better than me" I broke. Not flu/COVID/serious illness. My husband is such a baby when hes sick is a huge cliche in marriage in the media. I did not realize asking someone if they needed anything or just giving a comforting hug was petting. Being intrusive and obnoxious so my partner would pay attention to me. Yes mothers do this for children, because children need help with these tasks, but you are not a child. Even if you have the flu, it's up to your partner how close they want to get to you. Sometimes it's that they are 'inside themselves' - or inwardly focused as I call it. At one point my manager demanded I go see a medical doctor, which I already had, and because I was past two weeks of antibiotics and still sick, I was refused treatment. Recently I was knocked down by a A few years back I got really sick with many physical and neurological symptoms and was diagnosed with Late stage Lyme disease and many co infections. He love bombed me too. Jason and Maria want something entirely different out of the same marriage. I don't believe the behavior is intentional in my case. My SO is not yet undergoing any kind of treatment. Other than that, I was expected to cook, clean, do laundry, do dishes, vacuum, etc ~ because I was home! Everyone desires someone to pay attention to them from time to time, without having to demand it or schedule it . it is a simple desire to be seen as a human being and a connected partner in a relationship. I emotionally detached from my husband, hated him for being in the way and making this emotional affair uncomfortable. He is Extremely self centered, has No Empathy or Sympathy for anyone except himself. I know this may sound "corny", lol, but I don't think I'm too off base with this. I truly don't think he SEES the damage that all of this caused me AND him, mainly because he still doesn't think his ADHD has that much affect on our daily lives. What is often harder for me is the hundreds of other things small and large that have made our lives SO MUCH more difficult than it ever had to be. I've told our kids that THEY will be in charge of me if I ever get cancer or something like that. Love. No, that's not normal in a loving marriage. I am not an illness. Wise1. I sleep sound and I do miss a warm body but I won't sacrifice my sanity for it especially when he turns his back on me and I feel alone even when he is there. Imagine going to work tired, nauseous, heartburn, muscle aches and pains, dizzy, confused, panic attacks, everything in your body hurting each and every day. Nearly 17% were estranged from a member of their immediate family. Once again I get "That's great! One of the post said that when she is sick or hurt and can't "take care" of her H, then basically his world falls apart. WebMy girlfriend thinks I don't care for her but I do she's been sick for the past two days and I been trying to be nice by doing mostly everything for her I have to walk her to the bathroom give her medicine wash dishes pick up her groceries try to cook even though I'm not that good at it I have to get the bathtub filled for her I try my best to Fortunately, we were able to figure things out and this wasn't a problem for long. Now I see, and now I can and will be your Captain Marvel. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. However I do notice every time I'm sick, my husband acts as if he sick. I drink a gulp of beer and a stoke of cigar and really feel love..for that moment. OP, assuming you guys have been married for a long time, possibly for more than five years and your work is what gets u sick and hurt regularly, I'm guessing she was not always like this. So I've (40m) been married ten years now and I love my wife (40f), but she has the most annoying behavior pattern whenever I am sick. I would blame him for screwing up mine. I think so. I was trying to do something simple. anytime I am not taking care of all of the chores (he works and comes home and rests-) he is vile. That's life. It may make it more difficult to resolve differences or conflicts and the same It's the thought that matters <3. Blank and emotionless with no expression at all? Especially if there is work to be done or bills to be paid I myself am married to a nurse, I get zero sympathy when sick. Just comes to the door and looks at me like a piece of meat and then walks away and leaves after all of that? When he's not sleeping, he's making random 'sick' noises like sighing, After all, when he is around me he can make me miserable by extension of his bad mood. Submitted by tiredmomma1 on Fri, 04/07/2017 - 12:12. Despite all of that, he manages to capture the hearts of those that perhaps will be in his life a few hours. Yes, the victim mentality and what you said is so true. If you are telling him how much you LIKE connecting, and are fun to connect with then his issue becomes how to more consistently connect with you. I do not think I will see a lasting change because myspousewith ADD is alwaysout for himself. I am very organized so I planned for thenext 20 days. Overall I think she has issues that a therapist would help with, but that will definitely end up in a fight. I was really pissed and hurt that he didnt seem to care. So yes, I was sick and I gave myself the day and decided to go to work where I am around normal people that dote on me. When I'm sick no one asks what I need to make me less miserable. If I could boil down the difficulties, it really does come down to lack of love as you described. I am flaberggasted. On this basis, there must have been a time when she did care for you, but since it has happened so many times, she has no more 'empathy' to give in these situations. WHAT? I agree his kids should come first. Because you are doing it and should own your behavior. I was "out of commission" for 6 weeks. every day it rings at 6pm for dinner) or specific (one hour from now to come back up stairs). That lasted about 6 months for us and about 2 years for me to get over. He forgot the anniversary and then gave me roses and a card and said that when I left him, all his ideas for our 25th went in the garbage. Nothe kids aren't "more important" than her. Thats it. I think the non spouse has to be less of a giver and move to the attitude of-I'm in this life for myself just like you demonstratedaily that are in it for yourself. But I'm still keeping out of the way and limiting the inconvenience. Devoid of anything? You are very caring and shower her with affection and loveYou respect her parents and treat them wellYou respect your wife and support her to achieve her dreamsYour presence makes her feel happy (because she loves you so much)She considers you as her soulmateShe feels safe and secure to be with youShe trust you so muchMore items I'm feeling better now! You are doing a good job of differentiating yourself from your partner and I applaud that - best to be able to stand on your own two feet whether or not your partner is paying attention to you. I couldn't even keep them down or even water it was so bad and my mom called the Doc back and he said if I couldn't keep the water or pills down to take me into the emergency room? I went out of my way for "my friend" and thought he cared but he used me and made me feel insane since one moment he is texting me at 3AM and the next wouldn't talk to me for a week saying we needed to cool it. If he is in a tank with filtration, you need to change about 20-30% of his water weekly. And I also have to include.I have a very low toleranceto this kind of behavior!! The only thing he has genuinely shared from his therapy was the conclusion that he lies to everyone all the time. So I don't ask for anything beyond desperate needs. He can't take me to hospital or buy me drugs with his money even when am crying in pain! Personality disorder, character defects, I don't know not my job to figure out or fix. This means you may think it's obvious when you need a hug or some connection, but they may not 'see' it. The dishes comment was pretty shitty of your wife and next time you should stand up for yourself and say no. Yeah, he's not that thoughtful. I agree his kids should come first. But that was a lot of days for him to be unable to make any time for you. My hu Friday afternoon he gets home from work and goes to Interesting. But I truly think my husband is being a pussy sometimes. Its pretty normalized at the point. Very hard to comprehend and maybe that means we are ok.It is illogical and very sad to live with like that from both sides. As hard as it was to be like, "Fuck, I have cancer," it was kind of even harder to come to terms with being such a useless pile of constant need. I really do want out of the marriage but don't have the guts at my age. Submitted by thparkle on Tue, 03/20/2018 - 11:19. I guess what i m saying is although the strategy may have a great chance of success for some, there isn't any upside in my case. Ya, it sucks being sick but it's a stomach bug. Your sweatn the small stuff it's normal. I think that men get used to a female (their mother) taking care of them while they are children, and subconsciously they maintain this view as they get to adulthood. He literally goes deaf ears when I tell him Im sick. Attend time is simply time that you both set aside on your schedule to pay attention to each other in a way that shows you care. (Sadly, he was not compliant enough with the whole thing and it didn't work). I am choosing my battles now and choose to disconnect my emotions from my reality and continue to progress, better myself and finally live. That's just great! Mistake on my part expecting a bit too much help from my partner. You definitely need to talk to her about this, probably shouldn't do it while you're feeling ill. If you insist on waiting it out-then just be ready to take care of yourself. If you want to connect with your partner the 'trick' is two fold. And now that I have, I have a new perspective. He got mad at me because I went to grab the phone charger in the wall and didn't see it was connected to his phone (I needed to have a phone with me if I had to drive myself to the hospital in the middle of the night), he snapped at me that I am always in pain and should rent a hotel room in the hospital, etc, etc, and threw a different charger at me. I don't think there is a way to forgive things like this. Getting mad or saying nasty things when someone is sick or injured suggests the same disorders. Its good to have a healthy balance. but I am trying to get past the resentment so now it simply feels like a friendship and some days like room mates but my goal is to remain pleasant and loving, as I would treat a friend. Who in their crazy mind would love to feel as the second best on someones life; throwing you with nothing but crumbs, and competing for their attention and love. Otherwise she knows that I will go down and get whatever I want. How would you like her to act? I didn't nag on him, or hate him, or unkind. Here is another way to think about it. Without question, without me asking. I know when I'm sick, I freak out about being a burden & not pulling my weight. He is withdrawing from you, and youre feeling alone. He came home from work at 9pm and I said I was throwing up and had terrible stomach cramps etc. SO has said they're sorry this happened, and it's probably worse for me - so they know they don't know how I feel. And we would just keep saying hurtful things to each other. Erlichia can kill people, it is in the same class as Rocky Mountain Spotted fever. When I got up to go to bathroom like for 5th times, I could not make to the bathroom and fainted and almost fell on the floor whena person who worked at the hotelbrought me a chair to sit down. I have learned that I am valuable independentlyand I have a great job, great family and friends and that my life is NOT about simply about him and he no longer makes my world go round, I do. I used to do the same thing. Maybe talking to her would bring it to her attention. I scrolled through my phone contacts and one name popped out, an old mutual friend of ours. I can't help but think there is SOMETHING ELSE WRONG WITH HIM. I agree with Truth..his kids come first. Submitted by adhd32 on Mon, 04/17/2017 - 13:56. :) Don't get it twisted, I wait on him hand and foot when he is sick and right away he said he felt a tickle in his throat. We havent heard from you in a while, and Im hoping you are ok. This marriage has changed me, first for the worst and now finally for the better. How a Narcissist Treats a Chronically Ill Spouse. in Psychology. My ex didn't have ADHD. Submitted by thparkle on Tue, 03/20/2018 - 11:36. Even says just because I am sick, he is not going to pet me. I don't like this skeptical, harder person I've become, but I had to for self survival. Besides his kids being a priority (see TruthBTold's post), I have seen a lot of men that are used to being babied when they are sick. Submitted by dedelight4 on Sat, 04/15/2017 - 22:58. My wife wants to be left alone all I want is take care of her just be there for her to help her I don't understand when I'm sick I love for her to take care of me maybe just hold my hand any one can help me, After 22 years of marriage , I've learned this the hard way and am done once our oldest has graduated high school. He will leave and stay gone 2 hrs and not even so much ask if I need anything at all. When she left for work she didn't even say goodbye. I could reclaim myself so to speak and put myself out there in the relationship but unless my H admits to the effects of adhd in the marriage and takes concrere steps tofix it, I don't expect another outcome. I daze into the sunset and really feel lovefor that moment. Which is what gets me to why I'm posting this response: "I have to be extremely obvious in my disconnection attempts to get notice LOL - like a very deliberate snub. 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