It would be more helpful to know how to be OK with loneliness when really one has so little control over this, over other people. Available in: Paperback. Look never give up if nobody likes u "They're almost programmed in . Ive probably known this stuff for decades, (Im now 67) and some of the causes, such as always feeling I am the odd one out because of being born with a couple of physical disabilities, (both mainly invisible) one of which I am a proud I survived from and own up to, whilst the other I am always ashamed of. Snobby cliques enpower themselves by ostricising others with talents they themselves dont have. Forty years later. Wowand I thought I was possesed or that I had a sign on my back that warned others to stay away from me! I could very much relate with what you said about the people that supposedly love you. Please find those social groups and get out and about. Is what I said unforgivable? Ive learned not to hold expectations. There have been several times when I felt I had a close friend only to have them loose interest completely and i never understand why. I feel for you , the only thing my family value about me , is that they got rid of me . What am I even looking for? Humans treated me horrible. Life shows you the reality. One critic even went so far as to look up one review of my book, Desire: Women Write About Wanting, and pull from that one review (the only one that was even slightly negative) a section that said that I had not quite accomplished what I had set out to do in the book. Im glad to see how supportive everyone is, but this wont work for me. I thought this was my unique experience. I believe in you. My mother in law is the most judgmental of them all. It is the end of my first semester away at college and I feel very very lonely, anxious, and depressed. I wish I could see how other people view me because from my point of view, Im the worst. Eensie weensy squeensy ones, Lovely article. You are YOUNG enough to still make things turnaround meet someone, find happiness and love. The chief weakness of the Cabal was that it had little in the way of active support in Parliament, which meant that trouble was not long in coming, especially over the Declaration of Indulgence in 1672. Also we tend to get judged by how we look subconsciously by other people so play dumb, give a compliment, especially to other women & try out a new look see what happens. Ok, so we have a consensus here that nobody likes any of us and there seems little any of us can do to change that. We encourage you to get support, whether through a group, a counselor or therapist. It is what it is. Long thin slimy ones slip down easily Over the years, Ive had friends and even dated some girls, but nothing lasted very long. Im very light skinned but both my parents are black. Im so boring. Stop trying. These are known as Toxic people! No matter how others perceive you, your most important job is to figure out how you truly perceive yourself. Allow me to say thisYour family loves you, Im sure. Annie..you are a great person wit wonderful insight and compassion. You have great minds and have lives ahead of you that dont need the problems put in front of you. *****Kathie Rush wrote, "Nobody likes me song - the way I learned it"Nobody likes me, Everybody hates me,Guess I go eat worms.Long, slim and slimy ones,Big, fat juicy ones,The kind that wiggle and squirm. I think Im doing fine (despite the numerous setbacks Ive had with people telling me Im not okay) and then pow!punch in the face. I did find the article true, though, if you listen to the critice, you wont be yourself, and that can turn people off..(fulfilling a self-prophecy)..they may feel uncomfortable and not know how to react to it well. Right after I said it, I felt awful. I guess when I get to help, nobody will like me there either. I have literally been told by almost everyone I meet that nobody likes me. I know exactly how this feels. 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"no one wants me in their life". My mother in law told me one time that I needed to take turns going to others holiday events since we were going to so many & it mightve been cutting on her time & I thought about it & I said yeah thatd be great & I specified by saying they would be one year for Christmas, my mom one year & my dad another & she quickly told me no that wasnt what she was talking about she wasnt excluding them just my parents because I was the one that came from a split up you know broken home. Ooey gooey, ooey gooey worms. He doesnt like you. My relationships always ended in failure, and only one girl stayed with me for a couple of years. Then feel really stupid for acting obnoxious against my nature. Sure, it can be useful, but there are alternatives if youre looking for something to build a house with. Its built out of any hurtful negative attitudes that we were exposed to in childhood, especially from significant caretakers. Does this also cause me to judge others? And throw the skins away! Not to rely on anyone but sometimes its too hard to constantly be so strong. That leaves a lot of alone time but I entertain myself by reading and taking online classes and that sort of thing. i am in the same bote, i feel alone, no one likes me and i stay clear from social events just cause i have already decided that they will not like me anyway. I am certainly not perfect, but I perceive myself as a genuine, courteous, kind, generous person with a healthy sense of humor. I try hard not to beat myself up, but its tough. Not everyone is going to like your child; thats human nature. There are ways to uncover how and why a genuinely loving relationship can forego passion for routine. my family has no extended family) Last summer my sister told me, the family doesnt want you around. Then I chose to be not so helpful, give money to never get paid back, just see who people really are and its hard to find good people. You sound like a great , loving person! Or give them my contact info and I never hear back even though it seemed we made a real friend connection. Sales+streaming figures based on certification alone. in 1977. People say nobody can love you until you love yourself, and thats also true. You may also need to offer suggestions about which kids seem open to friendship. Youre being left out.. Nobody likes me, everybody hates me, When your son or daughter cries "Nobody likes me," you know that it's time to do something. Are they just pandering me because they pity me? I hate that! Add to this workplace bullying, numerous insults, slights, and precious few social invitations, and I am appalled that the best science can do for me is to tell me its all in my head. Dare I suggest that the cognitive therapy (essentially doing battle with ones own perceptions) that the therapists and insurance companies are pushng leaves much to be desired? Some clothes still retain the horizontal marks where they were folded at the store. When the sort fat fuzzy ones stick to your teeth their blood goes oohie oohie ick. Modern worms traveled to the USA on boats from Europe in the fifteenth centuryas stowaways, not paying customers. I woke up the next morning and looked upon the wall. you cannot break someone, and ask for forgiveness afterward. What is it about these so called experts who report its all in the imagination. Im actually surprised how many people feel the way i do. They just havent lived long enough to be able to understand events in a broader context. *****Rebecca Rush wrote, "I learned it like this"Nobody likes meEverybody hates meGuess I'll go eat wormsBig fat juicy onesLittle tiny squishy onesYummy yummy ooey gooey wormsFirst one was easySecond one was greasyThird and fourth went down..gulpFifth got stuckSixth came upOh how I hate worms! I dont demand things of others so maybe thats it. You need support. Sometimes Im like is this even real? I like to mix my chopped worms with onion, garlic, and rosemary, then form small patties and fry them. Confidence in people is based on their experience in daily life. Up comes the first one, up comes the second one, Oh how they wiggle and squirm. And that your kids dont get invited places because nobody wants YOU around? I am 50 years old, a successful healthcare professional and still feel like that worthless little girl. Those friendships have lasted a long time whereas others who Ive found without these tools have fallen away from my life. There are many more like me out there going through the same debilitating situation the seems to keep feeding my own worst enemy. Omg this is literally all of my thoughts and the why was Correct too I was bullied badly and my first relationship was mentally and verbally abusive. Expenses included labor, containers, trucking, border fees, and gasoline. It may be surprising, but this isn't the only song on the site about worms. So, at the end of the day, all I need is ME! So I quit going t to the gal pal dinners and finally just cut off contact. I cried reading all these stories. It was very hard for me to make friends and when I did and I was able to trust them they hurt me very badly. Well, I hated myself, even though i showed a bubbly character, this was the character I wanted to be and adored. "Everybody hates me." "I have no friends." These aren't easy things for parents to hear. In a most timely case, writer Joyce Maynard (whom I do not know well but who submitted a wonderful essay for a collection I edited a couple of years ago) is being chastised (and that is a polite term) for a reprint of a section of her memoir about J.D. This article does an admirably accurate job describing how awful this experience feels emotionally. But I feel like my inner voice agrees with most people. She also likes to turn the air conditioning to a chilly temperature, then lie on the couch beneath a blanketwith dogs. Here, I am trying to get involved with them, have a pure heart for them, no judgemental opinions or anything mean, just standing ready to accept them as they are, acting like their lawyer who would protect them everywhere just for a hope I will get the same treatment, not exactly same but somehow other one will also act same for me or at least think for me too. I would join interest groups that i truly like/love such as hiking, singing, book reading, whatever your interests, but start with also that have a good ratio of both men and women. I have friends I talk to online but as always they are there for a while and then just loose interest. Talking to your childs teacher is often helpful. I make friends but eventually as they get to know my vulnerabilities they lose interest, or start judging. Why do I say Im ok when Im clearly not ok. My heart breaks for you as I read your words. I contracted CoVid from him then even though I had a mask. *****Jerry Krantman sent his version:Nobody likes me. However getting to be rlly good friends is even harder because like so many other ppl here, I always have to be the first to msg others to get a reply or sometimes even none. There are endless battles to be fought, and many people quit after just losing one. I feel so alone but I feel like if I talk about it then people will feel like Their dragging me around just having to handle me without wanting to help. Reference desk/Archives/Humanities/2007 June 24, https://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Wikipedia:Reference_desk/Archives/Humanities/2007_June_24&oldid=1073424029, Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike License 3.0, The page you are currently viewing is an archive page. God Bless you for saying that. Well, you can sing the song along to the tune of "Polly Wolly Doodle". Internal Family Systems therapy is the go-to paradigm; its a way of moving closer to aspects of ourselves that originated as proactive defenses to childhood threats, but which now cause trouble for us. No one likes you.This actually helps you start to separate and see the voice as an enemy and not the real you. I live alone and, outside of work, no one speaks to me, calls/texts me, or visits me. I should never have been born. Footloose this may sound trite, but Im a nutritionist and am telling you this because it could be very helpful to you. . People dont include me either but its ok. Because I know someday that people will like me because Im fun. The problem is, you have been listening to your inner critic for so long that you bought the my-family-doesnt-love-me story. That was supposed to be who I thought as a friend & who for one visit started to get spiritual counseling to let my daughter see that it wasnt wrong to get help, to let her see I would be willing to do that to help her & me for a relationship. Haha, what? I feel that I have to demand to get anything like attention and never given anything for free. Anybody had similar experiences, and what do you do about it? But obviously I wasnt born hating myself, this developed slowly over a long time with a lot of external reinforcement. My life has been like a roller coaster, but Ive learned games & yes Ive played them thinking others would see how I felt & still feel, but maybe only because thats what I knew to get what I felt like I needed. I also had a lot of teachers insult me too and one that made fun of me. I could have wrote this with only one exception. What I heard when I read this, was it was my fault, its in my head, why Im feeling like this and what can I do to change. Its is way better living by yourself then with people who will ignore and make you feel self-conscious all day long. I have a couple of friends, but they are usually busy with their families. Even in high school I would have only 1-2 friends at a time. I feel raw and ashamed. Im really tired of all of this and I wish I had a real friend. I am chucking that inner voice out the door.go away satan cause me i am awsome! (((Hugs))) and God Bless You! Or when my first wife was always tired after work and on the weekends. I wonder what I do wrong , and now Im older , I presume I am a loner. Theres a sense of correctness and balance, this is the way things are supposed to be, the pain is deserved and just. And I doooo prefer it that way bc I dont connect with them like that anyways but still it does hurt that its just me being left out. Kinda proved that inner voice right that no one liked me. at the Disco". So what became of this I gave up ever being too close, thats not to say Im unfriendly just extremely independent & quite happy in my own company I wont waste time to take on anymore hurt. Im just not sure if I care or not. Ive been there but it didnt stop with just one person. William you are amazing and I bet if you let yourself shine everyone will like you. Up comes the first one, up comes the second one, You can do it! Perhaps there is something unacceptable about me but I have given up trying to understand it and that in itself is liberating! The fact that I am good to people and even people know it, and inspite of that nobody cares me l. This hurts me the most. In a Relationship with a Narcissist? I feel less alone. But my good qualities out weigh any bad ones.. Bite their heads off, suck their guts out,Throw their skins away.Nobody knows how man can survive onworms three times a day!Donated by:Kathie Rush from GeorgiaLearned it in camp 40 years ago. My family see me as a problem , now I am at uni , its like they want me to stay and never darken their doorstep again , I am doing ver well at uni , but I am so lonely soo lonely , this cant be normal . Version II: Nobody likes me, everybody . I totally feel what your feeling & have done what youve done pretty much all my life when I think about it. Itsy bitsy teenie ones. Can anyone who have made this work share some of their secret techniques with me. I think you are absolutely right about me trying hard. Developmental attachment trauma .. its a thing and it leaves scars, the problem with the article is it is not addressing this issue and the long, process of developing out of the body memory it produces. What about if you are really lonely and it is not only a state of mind? Copyright 2023 - Michele Borba. The thing is, i still experience shit times at work- at home, massive family fallouts over what other members have done to my family. 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